This was at a wedding in Yorkshire in The couple also had ushers — and everyone looked as though they had a great time. Many people claim that you ought to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. In the U. But on our side of the pond, ushers the U.
They typically stand up at the front of the ceremony room with the groom, while the bridesmaids walk down the aisle unaccompanied.
Short answer: no. This is particularly true if it was a long time ago — you might have grown apart since you attended their ceremony, after all. Many couples get married without any bridesmaids, best men, or wedding attendants to speak of! Your email address will not be published. And How to Choose Them How many bridesmaids are you going to have at your wedding?
How to Choose Your Bridesmaids A wedding can have quite literally any number of bridesmaids. Think Friendship Dynamics By now, you should have a rough idea of the number of bridesmaids that would suit your wedding, and how many you can afford. Of course, there are certain factors to consider you probably don't want to be planning and coordinating a bachelorette party with 80 people , but overall, we think you should have as many—or as few—members of your wedding party as you want.
Here's why. Don't listen to people who tell you there"s a "sweet spot," or your mother who repeatedly encourages you to stick to a number between "5 and But tradition is made to be broken—you should have however many you feel comfortable with, no matter the dress code or guest list size of your wedding.
Stick to your gut. To make things "aesthetically pleasing," some couples might choose to coordinate the number of attendants they have on each side, but this certainly isn't mandatory or important in the least.
If your spouse wants to include their 10 really good friends from high school, but you're only having your three close cousins, don't worry about making sure you're even. It'll still look perfect—we promise. That said, if you really do want to have the same amount as your partner, is it really worth picking someone to be in your wedding party that you wouldn't have included otherwise? Being an attendant is an honor and a commitment, and you shouldn't pick—or in the same vein, cut—anyone for the sake of optics.
Yes, really. If you feel like you're not close enough to anyone to ask or just don't want a wedding party—or on the other hand, close with too many people to choose—it's totally normal to simply forego having bridesmaids altogether. While some people's feelings might be hurt, they'll get over it, and you'll be having the wedding you want, which is the most important thing. And even if you don't have a wedding party, that definitely doesn't mean you can't have a shower or bachelorette party.
Which brings us to our last point Not to state the obvious, but this is the time to carry out your vision and no one else's. It's okay to be a little selfish and choose two bridesmaids over 25, or vice versa much to your mother's chagrin. As long as you have the people you want standing next to you at the altar, that's all that matters.
Main Menu. Sign Up. Back to Main Menu. Planning Tools. Wedding Vision. Discover Your Vision. Take The Knot's Style Quiz. Reception Venues. Wedding Photographers. Bridal Salons. When it comes to deciding how many attendants you can have in your line up, there is no set number. In this scenario, you could incorporate flower girls to go along with the ring bearer. Also, it is not necessary to match the number of bridesmaids to the groomsmen. How do you cut down your list of potential bridesmaids?
To begin with, you should take some time to consider your choices before you ask any of them. Next, you may want to consider the depth of your relationship with each of the people on your list. Ideally, the people you choose should be people you can talk to and confide in even after the wedding. For some people, like your future sister , it will be an opportunity to develop a relationship and friendship during the planning process.
Choose reliable people who can be honest with you and are able to step up to their responsibilities. Also, be realistic about your expectations so that you avoid conflicts down the road. For instance, if you want to include your high school bestie who lives out of state, it would be unrealistic to expect them to be heavily involved in the wedding planning. The process will also be easy if you are honest with them about what you expect from them and how much they will spend on expenses for their dresses and the like.
Unfortunately, there will be some friends and family who will be left unhappy when they realize they will not be part of your bridal party. One way that worked for me was a lunch date with my cousin where she explained to me how she chose her bridesmaids.
It made me feel valued and that our relationship was important enough for her to come to me and explain it to me. Another way is to give the friend or family member an important role in the wedding such as making a toast or introducing someone who will make a toast. You could also have them dress in the wedding colors or in a certain way that makes them feel as if they are a part of the wedding. Also, make sure that the maid of honor invites them to pre-wedding events such as the bridal shower so that they participate in the wedding journey with you.
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